I am often able to "hide" my disabilities, it takes hard work as most of you know. It is easy to look at someone else's life, and have the perception that there it is "greener" then my own.
In my teens, 20s and even some of my early 30's I had a negative opinion of myself. I always wanted to be healthier, or have full use of my right side, and left brain. I dream of it. I am not a materialistic person, but I wanting to be average was a goal. One day, someone that came openly stated "You are so good at what you do, you are the best at what you do, I wish I could be that good. You are an inspiration!" It was then that I realized that someone had the perception that I had the greener grass. This person was not family, or had any reason to give me a complement.
I learned later that this was a popular perception, and I was at a loss. I had to review how I saw myself. I realized that the people I thought had greener lawns may not be greener after all. This simple change in perspective has allowed me to embrace my weaknesses and enhanced my strengths.